Another friend approached me this weekend about a dilemma she’s facing and hesitantly asked me if I would consider posting about it on my blog because she’s really not sure what to do. She’s been watching the comments on my last poll and I think she seriously debated whether she should ask me to do this for her but she saw the flood of response that I got from my last poll, so I guess she wants in on the action.
Me, the demented person that I am, said “Sure! Why not! This will be so much fun!”
Seriously, much safer subject, or so I think. Or not. You be the judge.
Again, your opinion only please.
My friend was out a couple of weeks ago with her girlfriends and a group of guys approached them and began chatting them up. One guy in particular approached my friend who was glammed up for a night out – her hair was down, she had on her big funky sunglasses, and probably looked nothing like she normally does. The guy began openly flirting with her, clearly not recognizing HER but she recognized HIM – he’s engaged to be married to a close friend of her and her husband’s.
My friend waited for the moment when he would recognize her but it never came and the flirting continued. Eventually the two groups parted ways, but my friend indicated that had the girls invited the guys to join them, it would have happened because it was obvious that that the group of guys were looking for some fun.
Two days later, the fiancee of the guy in question called my friend and they had a conversation – and she waited for her friend to mention that her fiance had ran into her the other night but it didn’t come up. My friend hung up the phone, assuming that the phone call confirmed that the guy had not recognized her and had indeed been flirting with her as if she was just some girl on the street.
Does my friend make a big deal of this situation? Does she say something privately to him the next time she sees him or does she say something privately to her friend? Does she ignore it and pretend that it hadn’t happen? And if you were in the fiancee’s position, would you want to know about something like this?
I told my friend to bring it up next time she sees the couple together and to tease him about it and say something like, “We ran into each other a couple of weeks ago and you totally didn’t recognize me, did you?” Chances are, the guy will be like, “What? When? Where?” And SHE can say, “We were on X street, I was with my girlfriends, you were with your friends…” And then leave it at that. I would think the guy’s response would dictate his fiancee’s response and if SHE’s paying attention, she’ll be all over the fact that her fiance was out one night chatting up her girl friend and she’ll either call him on it right then and there (which could be awkward) or she’ll call him on it in private. Either or, the information’s been provided casually and my friend can be off the hook.
Any other opinions?